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As the saying goes, people who are urged to marry are lonely.
Xiaohua has been urged to get married by her family since she graduated from college, and she is also annoyed.
She finally told me on Wechat some time ago that she was getting married.
I said: congratulations!
She sent an aggrieved expression: however, I do not love him.
Her husband is the kind of man with good conditions in all aspects, with a good income and loves her very much, but she just doesn't like it and loses her temper every time because of some trifles.
The most exaggerated one, when he left the tap on when he was brushing his teeth, she happened to see him. She rushed over and knocked his mouthwash cup to the ground: what a bad habit you are!
As a matter of fact, she knows very well that there is nothing wrong with him, but she is the one with the problem.
She picked on him everywhere because she didn't love him.
I mean, why did you marry if you didn't like it?
She told me that she was 28 years old and unmarried in their old age. Her parents urged her and seven aunts and aunts to be a matchmaker all the time, so she gave in.
Finally decided to marry that family is satisfied, but she does not like the man, I asked her, do you have any thoughts on the rest of life?
Maybe it will get better when you get married, she said.
02
After listening to her words, I am a little sad, I really hope that she can fall in love with each other as she wishes after marriage.
But I have a friend who listens to it. Love can get married first and then slowly find the feeling of this chicken soup, and then marry someone you don't love. As a result, life after marriage has changed from dislike to annoyance when you see him.
I'm not saying don't listen to other people's advice, it's just that you should be responsible for yourself.
Everyone who urges you to get married is thinking about it from his own standpoint.
Parents want you to get married for fear that they are old and there is no one to take care of you.
Relatives urge you to get married because everyone is married, and they don't understand why people don't get married.
There are all kinds of neighbors who always ask you to get married, maybe just because they want to find a topic when chatting.
Everyone has their own reasons, but in the end, you are the only one who is responsible for your life.
When you have been extremely disappointed in the marriage, all they can do is to persuade you that young people are not sensible, so put up with it.
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I don't know why people don't even have the right to choose love as soon as they are in their twenties.
She just wants to wait and wait until the person she wants to marry is wrong.
Of course, I'm not encouraging people not to get married. I just think you should be careful in choosing the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with, because a general may be a lifetime.
Yu Feihong, who has also been forced to marry, said: I don't like to give the initiative to others, and I don't expect men to bring me happiness.
She will never turn the eyes of others into greater pressure on herself.
I think the reason why she lives so thoroughly must be inseparable from material independence and spiritual independence.
If you don't expect your own happiness on others, you have to get the happiness you want on your own. only when you have the right to choose your life, can you really please yourself.
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