When the New year holiday is over, I see a lot of people sighing in moments: the thought of going to work makes my heart heavier than going to the grave.
I fully understand this feeling. This is not a slack, but a withdrawal from the relaxed and pleasant atmosphere of the Spring Festival holiday, and the anxiety brought about by the stress of life sweeps in again.
Think about it, do you have the same situation:
After working for a few years, I am still a moonlight clan, and my ability is not worthy of ambition.
With a family and children, they still wait for their wages every month. They dare not get sick or resign.
I have been in society for several years, but I am only old and unknowledgeable, and I don't have a skill that I can show my hand.
We are all afraid that we will be full of confidence at the beginning of the year, but at the end of the year, we are still anxious and swaying in the wind.
If you are tired of such a powerless life and don't want to become the kind of person you don't like in the next 5, 10 or 15 years of your life, I hope you can straighten out your mood and do the following on your first day at work. Force yourself to be a different person.
Take yourself as the only one to rely on
At the classmate reunion not long ago, my friend Xiao A complained: her aunt advised her to go back to her hometown to find a job so that she could be filial with her parents; her second aunt advised her to marry a similar boy earlier and lead a more stable life.
When she heard this, she was annoyed: she can only see these relatives once or twice a year, but why do they always want to meddle in their own lives?
In fact, she can't live from her heart for a reason.
Her grades have not been good since she was a child. Her parents found her a job and bought her a house.
Accustomed to relying on parents, they lose the ability to get out of the comfort zone, and naturally follow their parents' arrangements for everything.
Whether it's work or marriage, she can't go against her parents' wishes and become a mother's daughter everywhere. Seemingly glamorous, in fact, he lost the right to choose and had to bow to reality step by step.
In my opinion, if you want to have the right to choose, you have to be strong enough not to rely on anyone and to regard yourself as the only savior.
By contrast, my other friend Lin Lin lives a much more free and easy life.
After six years of work, from a rookie with a monthly salary of 5000 yuan to a partner in a start-up company, she crawled all the way with her own strength and made her own world.
Now, she is also 30 years old, but when she comes home for the Spring Festival, none of her relatives advised her to go back to work in her hometown, and no one urged her to get married.
Even the dearest parents advised her to find a boyfriend out of the hope that she could have someone who knows the cold and the heat and be considerate to her at any time.
She told me: when you rely on yourself as the only one, you can grow quickly. When you are several times better than the people around you, no one will influence your choice, because you have proved with facts that your current choice is the best choice.
I was enlightened by her words. Indeed, just like no one is going to teach Jack Ma how to do business, when you are strong enough, no one will tell you what to do in your life, and you can have more choices. You don't have to compromise with reality.
2019, please regard yourself as the only support, force yourself to become strong, reassure the people you love, and allow yourself to live from your heart.
No matter how old you are, you should dare to step out of the comfort zone.
At this point, I guess some people will think: although my life is not so satisfactory now, but fortunately, I don't have to worry about food and clothing. After my high-spirited age, I will accept my fate for the rest of my life.
absolutely wrong.
My friend ran is a living example.
When she just graduated, she entered a listed company with excellent interview results, but two years later, she was still small and transparent in the workplace because of her lack of ambition and lack of success.
But she feels that she is very good, with enough salary, no work responsibility, and often nothing to do.
Finally, at the end of last year, the company began to retire its old employees because of changes in development needs, and she was on the list.
I remember that there was a view in "Strange Theory": sometimes we work hard, not to live a better life, but to maintain the status quo.
This is the Queen of hearts's law: running hard can only keep you where you are; if you want to move forward, you must run at twice the speed.
Only those who dare to step out of the comfort zone can see a more wonderful view of life.
Not long ago, Weibo was scanned by a video from a grandmother who is gray-haired but fluent in English and talking to foreign tourists.
Grandma Xu Xiuzhen only began to learn English at the age of 53. She had only the education level of the third grade of primary school and had never been exposed to English, but she overcame it one by one.
Today, she can speak 11 languages and communicate well with tourists from all over the world. The 74-year-old, in high spirits, has become the proudest age for ordinary people at the age of providing for the aged at home.
Grandma Xu Xiuzhen's story tells us: do not think it is too late, as long as you want to do one thing, now is the earliest time, but also the best time.
People live a lifetime, is not just a picture of a handsome and unrestrained walk.
2019, please remember, no matter what age, dare to go out of the comfort zone, try, break through, maybe you will live to be what you want most.
Be brave in the torrent and learn to empower yourself
At the beginning of the new year, also ushered in the spring recruitment, I believe that many people want to change jobs to achieve promotion and salary.
But as one entrepreneur said: it's not job-hopping that determines whether you can get a promotion or a raise, but your actual ability.
Not long ago, the head of a well-known self-media once said in the recruitment notice: no low-paid employees, as long as can get high-paid talent.
In 2019, when the economic situation is still tense, enterprises have to maximize the human efficiency ratio and leave limited opportunities to people with strong abilities in order to seek development.
This is the worst of times, but also the best of times; it is a test for the incompetent, but a dividend for the highly capable.
As long as you are willing to settle down and empower yourself, you will be able to stand out and fight for your own world.
This is the case with my former colleague Xiaomei.
After getting married, she gave birth to two children and resigned to take care of the children at home.
Seeing the depressed situation in the industry, the husband has to support a family of four, which is under great pressure. As a wife, she sees it in her eyes and is anxious in her heart.
But having been out of the workplace for a long time, it is not easy to make a comeback.
But she did not mean to back down, but to find a way to empower herself.
First of all, she contacted her old friends in human resources to understand the current market demand for talents. And re-evaluate their ability to work, selected several target enterprises.
Then, she visited a large number of recruitment websites, analyzed the recruitment needs of employers, and then compared them with themselves one by one. If they did not meet the requirements, they would make up for them.
Coming from a business background, she has very good expression skills. She thought that if she could speak fluent English, she must be a sought-after person.
So she began to pick up the English that had been forgotten for a long time, starting with the words and memorizing them bit by bit.
A few months later, she was accepted by the company she wanted, growing from a delicate flower protected by her husband to a big tree that could share the ups and downs of life with her husband.
Indeed, most of the time, if you don't work hard, you have no idea where your upper limit is.
Instead of muddling through every day, it is better to push yourself to open up the possibilities of life.
Instead of choosing comfort at the best age, size up the situation and learn a skill to add value.
To tell you the truth, no matter what age you are, learning one more skill will give you more guarantee of survival.
English, on the other hand, is a skill that can be improved quickly in a short period of time and benefit immediately after learning it as long as you use the right method.
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