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A rare day off, last night and several friends together for dinner, chat is nothing more than work, life, Huizi said a topic we seldom talk about our relationship with our parents.
He said that he had almost no real communication with his parents. Every time he called home was like a work report, and his parents' concern for himself was limited to the level of material life:
Remember to wear more clothes when the weather is cold recently, remember to eat on time, and don't tell me if you have no money.
Every time it was the same few words, and he always answered routinely, and always reported the good news instead of the bad news:
Everything is fine. I eat and sleep on time every day, and my work is going well.
But in fact, there are many new things in his life, he has made a lot of new friends, and there are some troubles in his relationship and work, but these do not exist in the communication with his parents.
In the eyes of my parents, I am afraid that I am completely different from the real me.
This remark resonated with everyone.
As we grow up, especially after work, the real communication with our parents seems to be decreasing day by day.
Obviously before going home, I still think about how to honor my parents, but often I don't say a few words when I go home, especially when it comes to my work, life, and love-related issues. I don't know why I quarreled with my parents.
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We also know that our parents love and care about themselves, and want to respond to them, but we just don't know how to respond, especially when we see the table of how long we can get along with our parents.
The result of the calculation is unexpected. We actually spend only 1540 hours, or 64 days, with our parents.
We always thought there was still time, but 64 days was what we thought would be a long time to come!
What I want to say here is to take advantage of the dexterity of my parents and take them out for a walk.
The world is so big that I want to have a look. If you really want to travel, take your parents with you.
Even once a year, don't believe it, no one doesn't like to play, but they are used to frugality all their lives and are reluctant to spend money.
I didn't understand this a few years ago. I always thought that my parents would stay at home and eat and drink well.
Only later did I know that they didn't have a chance, and once they were more excited than you were.
They have hardly traveled far in most of their lives, and it really helps them to go out and have a look at the outside world.
Both mentally and physically.
03
All the hometown is far away, and we are all wandering when we grow up.
What touched me most when I came home last time was that when I went home with my father for a medical examination, I suddenly found that he was old.
It's the kind that suddenly gets old.
My father walked in front of me, and I followed him. His erect back was slightly bent, and his pace was not as vigorous as it used to be.
My father looked back to see if I had followed me and told me to hurry up. I found that his face had lost weight several times, and his temples were all gray from when.
But I clearly remember that my father was very young, and I often went home.
It suddenly dawned on me that every time I go home is just a formality, and I spend most of my time on my own, watching TV on my cell phone, and not having a good time with them, let alone heart-to-heart talk.
Life is most afraid of children wanting to raise and relatives are not there, many things can wait, but love and companionship can not wait.
Don't let filial piety stay in superficial company, put down your phone and tell them your troubles, maybe they will give you a better answer.
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