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Today I saw a sentence: everyone is walking in the crowd, if you go far away from me, you will be closer to some other people, which is not necessarily a bad thing.
This sentence is very sad to read. I don't know if it reminds you of one of your friends. You have said everything from the past to have nothing to say now.
Thinking of the Mid-Autumn Festival a few days ago, a friend who had not been in touch for a long time sent me a happy Mid-Autumn Festival!
I have an unspeakable surprise. I typed in the dialog box and finally remembered me. Feel so silly, delete it; enter it again and know to contact me? I was afraid that people would think that I was hypocritical and deleted it; after holding it for a long time, I finally just sent a two-word thank you.
He was my best friend in college. I went to work after graduation, while he went to graduate school in another city.
We all know that distance and time will make even the best friends have less and less common language. You cheerfully ask him to play games, and he is busy with his papers; you complain that your work is too busy and lack of money, and he thinks that the lights out in the dormitory are too early to finish his homework.
As Gao Xiaosong wrote in "the Brother who sleeps in my Upper bunk", your letter is becoming more and more polite. I think it is a true picture of each and every one of us.
So I began to understand that whether it is love or friendship, it is very difficult to stay the same, they all have a shelf life.
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We really don't have to remember the past all the time.
Just as people cannot step into the same river, with the passage of time, the gap between people will become larger and wider, after all, the living environment and social environment will be different, when they do not grow up slowly in the same environment, the gap between values and outlook on life is reflected.
So I think, if the friendship is sincere, there is no need to deliberately find the topic, as there is a saying that real friends are walking together even if they do not speak will not feel embarrassed.
Saying everything is not necessarily sincere, it may be lonely, or it may be just to make yourself look gregarious; having nothing to say may not be sincere, and the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water.
In the traditional view, true friends should have both good and bad luck. But nowadays, everyone's pace is so fast that even if we encounter happy things, we just smile, where is there time to tell our good friends one by one?
As for, encounter sad things, then there is no need to say, after all, no one wants to let others know that they are not good, even friends.
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In the past, I was very sociable. I was always busy meeting all kinds of classmates and friends and attending all kinds of parties.
At that time, I was full of money and money, and whenever I sent out pictures of dinner, there were a lot of people who liked and commented and felt that I had a lot of friends.
Later, because I had to take an exam, I deliberately reduced Wechat chat and parties, and gradually I found a heart-wrenching answer.
Eighty percent of the social skills I am proud of are unnecessary. It's no use drinking, having a barbecue and meeting new people.
So I began to believe that the more time people have, the better their popularity.
Instead of wasting your time socializing, you might as well beat yourself on the back and rub your shoulders.
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