Since the rise of social networks and the popularity of smartphones, we have less and less time for ourselves. As soon as the mobile phone is swiped, the information of the whole world explodes in front of our eyes, and by forwarding it once, we have become a post station of the world's information. Relatives and friends thousands of miles away can chat video if they have the Internet, and living alone in a corner is no longer a remote thing. Loneliness has become a rare feeling, of course, this is not a bad thing.
Only occasionally, when I cook, wash dishes or clean the house, I suddenly realize that I am getting along with myself when I cook, wash dishes or clean the house, which makes the whole person empty, my thoughts are in a mess, and it is only about myself that I fly to the past and the future. A very quiet sense of loneliness, and this feeling, in a variety of signals covering each other today, shows a pale precious.
Having seen a speech by Zhu Tianwen, she said that we have been feeling it, but we have never felt that kind of feeling. Once I went back to my hometown in the country. After dinner, I took a walk in the field and walked to the edge of the land and temple. Next to me was a big banyan tree, surrounded by a green rice field. The whole village was immersed in the silence of a siesta. The only sound source came from the ditch under my feet. There happened to be a small sluice gate, where the current suddenly surged. Sitting on the stone chair, I found that every time the water waves had the same rhythm but not the same, there were always some subtle differences. This time was higher, and that one stirred up a splash, really like life. I rushed to a place mightily. No wonder the song in the poem always hypocritically asks where the wind goes and where the water goes. I watched the spray there for half an hour, although I did not observe anything meaningful to the world, but that half an hour in a daze made me feel my feelings for the first time, happy is a kind of feeling, how to feel happy; sad is a kind of feeling, and how to feel sad, it needs to be alone in a vacuum. And the mastery of this skill is beneficial to my life. For example, when I feel pain, I realize what pain is. The pain seems to be diluted by careful study and becomes less painful. When I feel hungry, I will feel why the feeling in my abdomen is called hunger, so hunger becomes less hungry. I wonder if when a master with profound spiritual practice chooses to meditate, he can also find the gap between these feelings and reach the most empty state by nanocrystallizing his senses.
It has to be admitted that when loneliness strikes, it is mostly due to negative energy. In the old moments when my friend fell into adolescence, she was sad because of disputes in the workplace. I paced out for a walk by myself because I quarreled with my parents and got angry. I felt that no one in the world understood me. Loneliness is always accompanied by helplessness, but interestingly, it is loneliness itself that cures us. Like a silent old friend, he sat quietly beside us, waiting for us to slowly feel the feeling of loneliness, so as to break the loneliness, before he turned and left.
It is a kind of debt, when we feel lonely, loneliness is with us.
Not only like loneliness, a lot of pain, what needs is the cure of the pain itself, poison is medicine. There is a friend who loses both his love and career, hiding at home, world-weary and autistic, dishevelled, does not eat or drink, walking corpses. Her good friend went to her house, lived with her, and lived the same life with her. Until one day, she looked at her good friend just like her, like a ghost looking in the mirror and could not help laughing. This smile proved that the grave-like years had passed, and they got up and went out together, eating and drinking spicy food, shopping and making SPA.
The education we have received since childhood is all positive. We should be strong in setbacks, brave in difficulties and optimistic in hardships. But later found that, in fact, can not be strong, not brave, not optimistic. Like my friend's good friend, put down all the high comfort, fall into the same position with you, accompany you to face all this passively, accompany you not to meet the difficulties. A lot of pain, like the night, through the long night is nothing but rhetoric. You can walk by yourself at night and wait for you during the day. At best, we will meet the extreme night, but as long as we wait, the sun will reappear.
When I was a child, my father told me that where I was bitten by a snake, the antidote could be found within seven steps. I don't know which martial arts novel was bullshit. However, I think that in the most difficult time, the way to eliminate it is at that time. When you feel lonely, the happy gathering of friends and friends is only the role of analgesia, not the root of treatment. Next time, when you are helpless and lonely, try to sit with them. Sitting like looking in the mirror, I couldn't help giggling. That's when the light is darkest and darkest. Darkness is always more fragile than light, and the conditions it needs are much greater than light. As long as there is a little gap, light will try to enter. A friend of mine said, "how do you say hello to light? I'll see you in the darkest place!"
People are so different. My understanding of "others is hell" does not mean that people are sinister, but that people are unfathomable and unknown, and no one has ever been to hell, and natural rescue becomes self-righteous. All understanding is watching from the sidelines, and all comforting is scratching through the boots, so more often, listening is more useful than enlightenment. Just assume the role of "loneliness", become a specific object to talk to, and other people immersed in pain, in the talk, reach the core of loneliness.
There was a very popular photo on the Internet before, a well-shaped white-collar woman walked slowly down the stairs next to the subway, holding her high heels. Yes, she was walking barefoot. The author's accompanying text is "you are tired today, too." The reason why the photo is so popular is that netizens empathize with the time when they were very tired. Tiredness is cured by tiredness. When you are tired, those who share the fun or invite you to play will probably only gain your white eyes.
Yin and Yang fish surround and merge with each other. Negative things are not all black, it is also black and white circles, antonyms and symbiotic, hurt you, but also heal you.
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