Recently, a consultant came to me, and she said at the beginning: I am 32 years old. I am the mother of a four-year-old girl. I graduated with a master's degree from a key university in 1999. Now my husband and I are working in a large group company in Shanghai. he is doing technical management work, and I am doing product development work. If everyone maintains the status quo, according to the current situation of the industry, he should lead a well-off life. When I bought a house when the house price was not expensive, the pressure of mortgage repayment was not very great. Now the house is already sky-high, there are also private cars, and there is no loan, so my own patent will come out immediately. It is estimated that there will be no problem with the next step of promotion. So many people still envy me, but why am I still confused? Yes, why are you confused when you have a house, a car and a promotion?
The dream and passion of life what she said later tells the whole story: to tell you the truth, it is precisely because of my contradiction that I chose your course. Maybe it is sad that I do not have a fixed goal after thirty. Perhaps, it is a wise choice to continue my current working state. I am really lost. But I can really feel that there is still a passion in my heart, although this passion does not seem to be as strong as it was a few years ago, it is precisely because I am afraid that one day I really have no idea at all, so I ask a professional like you for advice! Passion, in the eyes of some people, seems to be an unfashionable word, but it still affects our lives and reflects the value and happiness of our lives.
There is such a story: a pair of brothers came home together from a trip, each carrying a large bag of luggage. They live on the 80th floor, only to find that there is a power outage in the building. So they climbed the stairs together. When he got to the 20th floor, the elder brother told his younger brother, "the bag is too heavy. We'll put it on the 20th floor. We'll climb up and come down tomorrow to get it." The younger brother said: good. So they put their bags on the 20th floor and continued to climb. On the 40th floor, my brother began to complain, so he quarreled with his brother. They quarreled while climbing, climbed to the 60th floor, the elder brother said to the younger brother: there are only twenty floors left, let's not quarrel, quietly climb it! So they went their separate ways and finally arrived at the door. The elder brother made a handsome gesture and said, "Brother, open the door." The younger brother said to his brother, "stop messing around, you don't have the key." It turned out that they had left the key in the bag on the twentieth floor.
Dreams are where happiness lies. This story actually reflects our lives. Many people live under the expectations of their families and teachers before the age of 20, and bear a lot of pressure; after the age of 20, they leave the pressure of the public and begin to run and work hard; but after 20 years of work, only to find that the work is not satisfactory, so they begin to complain about the boss, the company, the society and the government. Spent another twenty years complaining about it.
So I told myself that there was nothing to complain about at the age of 60, so I just walked out of my old age silently. On the eve of dying at the age of eighty, he remembered that there seemed to be something unfinished, that his twenty-year-old dream had not yet been fulfilled.
Therefore, I hope that now you are full of ideals and enthusiasm to do what you want to do and realize your dreams. Life is only a few decades. Especially after so many experiences, we should be able to realize that dreams are where happiness lies.
Once an undergraduate majoring in medicine asked me: I have studied medicine for five years, but I hate being a doctor. I like sales work. What should I do? Do you just give up your major that you have studied for five years? Isn't the loss too great? I said to her: if you lose the opportunity to work for the rest of your life because of the loss of five years, which one will lose more? If the choice of the past five years can not help, then, now is the opportunity to re-choose, the decision is in your hands, what should you do to be responsible for life? Don't lose your happiness all your life because of five years of misfortune.
The dream is the realization of value. Bernice Siegel once said: I think whether you win the grand prize or you know that you are about to die, you will do the same thing in the next 12 months, so that you can really live your own life, and at this moment, you will live a meaningful life.
There was a drugstore owner whose father died when he was young because he could not afford to catch medicine. He vowed to open a benevolent drugstore. After he became the boss, he did not change his mind, young and old, rich and poor. He also taught himself to prescribe prescriptions for people who could not afford to see a doctor. Some experts in the pharmaceutical industry shook their heads when they saw this: it would be strange if they did not lose money because they were the black sheep of the family. However, his business is booming, eclipsing all the people who are more cost-effective and smarter than him. This is true of many things in the world, when you chase it deliberately, it flaps its wings and flies away like a butterfly; when you put aside the mundane thoughts on the surface and devote yourself to one thing for the sake of society and others, the unexpected harvest is already quietly greeting you.
Dreams are the source of motivation. If you do what you are really interested in, or if you know through planning that you are temporarily working hard in order to prepare for doing what you are really interested in, achieving greater success and happiness, and realizing your deepest wishes in the future, everyone will be full of passion for work. As the following story shows:
Three workers were building a wall when someone came and asked, "what are you doing?" The first person said angrily, "Don't you see?" Build a wall. The second man looked up and smiled and said, We are building a tall building. The third man hummed a song as he worked, and his smile was bright and happy: we are building a new city. Ten years later, the first man built a wall on another construction site; the second man sat in the office drawing drawings and he became an engineer; and the third man was the boss of the first two.
Of course, the boss's result is not important, nor does it mean that everyone has to be a boss, but at least people with clear goals are hard-working and happy. Because although he is building a wall, his goal and vision is a new city, which is the source of his real motivation.
What is your dream and where is your goal? It's not clear yet? Never mind, as long as you start planning right away, it's not too late.
(Zhang Fangtian / tr. by Phil Newell)
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