Life is getting cooler and cooler, and friends lose their way.

01

I remember at the college graduation ceremony, the teacher who had been with us for four years said to us:

At last, please look around at the students and remember their faces, because some of them are the last time you see them in your life.

I knew this for a long time, but it was only when I really experienced the meaning behind it that I understood the feeling.

Those students in different provinces and cities may never see each other again in this life.

But to my surprise, even the friends who are very close to me, even in the same place, have not seen each other since graduation.

Some of the truth has long been understood, but when it is really discovered, it is a different feeling.

Looking back on the first half of my life, it seems that everyone is constantly saying goodbye to others every day.

Our life is like an hourglass of time, lost all the way.

When I was young, I had a very good friend. You went to school together and went to school together, but later, you changed schools and moved.

You made an appointment to write often and come out to play often. But I don't know since which day you have never written or received a letter again.

After going to college, I got to know a lot of friends from all over the world. After graduation, you also agreed to go to each other's wedding, but then you didn't come to the ceremony.

So you comfort yourself that time always leaves the most real people, and you still have the people who grew up with you.

But little do you realize that marriage makes you lose each other.

Some people I once thought that we would be in everything for a lifetime, but never thought we had lost it.

In the movie "the Dead of Mountains and Rivers", another line is spoken very well.

Each person can only accompany you for a long way, sooner or later will be separated.

Sad as it sounds, it is the truth.

In everyone's life, there are bound to be some people who walk from strangers to strangers again and again. From the past to help each other, slowly to forget each other.

02

A few days ago, my mother suddenly mentioned the recent situation of a good friend for many years.

I forgot all about it when my mother mentioned his name. It feels very familiar, but it is very strange.

After thinking about it for a long time in my mind, I remembered that he was the friend who went to school with me and then agreed to write to me.

As a result, my mother told me that he had cancer and died last month.

My head buzzed when I heard the news. I couldn't hear anything.

I began to rummage through the cabinets to find the few letters left that year, but sadly, the letters could not be found.

Finally, I have to admit that the person who used to be very close has now been lost in the crowd.

But I can't remember which meeting with him was the last.

There is a thought-provoking video on Weibo in which an interviewer asks passers-by a question at random.

The question is: when do you usually use the word another day?

The answers of passers-by are always the same.

A friend sent a message saying: are you free this weekend? Shall we get together?

You said: some other time. I have to work this weekend.

The same answer is poignant.

Search Wechat chat for the words "another day, next time, etc."

I saw that most of the chats found in the search came from old friends who were once familiar with each other and are now estranged.

Between them, there is always something important to get in touch with, and then quickly lost the topic.

So a few pleasantries, recall a few words of the past, and finally quickly turn to the next chat, free to get together.

However, these words are clear to each other, and this is just a lie that you and I know.

03

Milan Kundera once said: this is a world where fashion leaves, but we are not good at saying goodbye.

Yes, we used to be so close that we were sad to think about it, but we had to get used to it because it was so ordinary.

Life is getting cooler and cooler, and friends are lost all the way. This is probably a true portrayal of many people along the way.

Fiona and V are very close sisters in the TV series Shameless, but one day Fiona realized that she hadn't talked to V for a long time.

Moreover, it is an indisputable fact that if you get married, you will gradually distance yourself from V.

Fiona was so scared that she asked her fiance, "what should I do without V?" She and I are best friends.

The fiance said: don't worry, you will still be friends, but not so good, life will move on.

We live more and more lonely, so we have to learn to say goodbye to those who are familiar or unfamiliar, beloved or indifferent.

It has nothing to do with attaching importance to feelings, but people will become more and more mature and sober.

Everyone has their own way to go, and if they go in different directions, they will inevitably go their separate ways. When they think about it, they are still sad, but there is nothing they can do about it.

But if you can, don't give up easily.

Don't always talk about another day, don't always wait for the next time, there are not so many days to come in your life, those who really value, those who don't want to lose, please hold them in your hands.