01
My friend Xiaojie's husband had another woman, and she came to me to complain: my husband wants to divorce me, what can I do?
I asked her: what do you think?
She said something viciously:
I won't get divorced. He wants to be with that fox outside. Even if I spend my whole life on him, I can't take advantage of him.
Xiao Jie is really true to her word. She has spent another ten years in this crappy marriage.
In these ten years, the husband not only did not take a penny home, but also hollowed out all the money, and since his wife found out that he was having an affair, he not only did not rein in, but also brought the woman home fair and square.
It was like this for ten years, and there was not a single day at home for ten years.
One night, Xiao Jie came home from work to see that her son was not at home. She searched everywhere crazily and collapsed several times.
Did not expect late at night, Xiao Jie's husband led the fox spirit and his son appeared, the son also called the fox spirit aunt.
Xiao Jie was so angry that she almost wanted to hit the dog couple, but because of her anger, she fainted directly.
After Xiao Jie woke up from the hospital, her hands were clenched so tightly that she left ten fingernails scratched.
When Xiaojie's son saw his mother wake up, he cried and said to Xiaojie, "Mom, please divorce your father. I can't stand it."
Looking at her own son's face, Xiao Jie suddenly realized: what on earth have she done over the years?
Just for a man who had changed his mind, he wasted his whole 12 years of youth, and even nearly ruined the child's life.
Xiaojie finally divorced, the law awarded the child to Xiaojie, but also required Xiaojie's husband to pay huge alimony.
After a year of divorce, Xiao Jie said:
After all these years, why should I? Women, you mustn't put yourself in your life because of some bad things. It's not worth it.
02
The world is so big and life is so short, we should learn to take a long-term view.
Instead of getting tangled up in those bad things, it's better to get out as soon as possible and spend more time and energy on managing yourself.
In real life, everyone will encounter a variety of troubles, and even heavy losses, but if they are entangled in these things, they are likely to pay a more painful price.
Carina Lau, who was once very popular, was kidnapped when she was young.
Although Carina Lau was rescued soon, the incident cast a shadow over her whole life.
After being rescued, the media frantically exposed pictures of Carina Lau being photographed nude by the kidnappers, and many people even said that it was because Carina Lau had rejected the request of the underworld boss, and many ugly videos were revealed. Even if Carina Lau bravely stepped forward to clarify.
But people don't want to believe it at all, they just want to believe what they think.
This is an unimaginable humiliation and pressure on a woman whose life was almost ruined here.
But twenty years later, Carina Lau was not at all timid in the interview of "Peak hour" in the face of the reporter's sharp questions.
Carina Lau said: I forgive all those people, including the kidnappers.
In the face of the reporter's query, Carina Lau smiled. She said something that suddenly enlightened people.
She said: otherwise I will not be so happy, I will not be so calm, only you accept some of the unfairness in life, you will really know what life is all about, you can walk more swagger.
03
Sometimes, in the face of bad people and bad things, what we have to do is not to forgive them, but to forgive ourselves.
Don't punish yourself for other people's mistakes.
There are too many people in the world, they are not bad people, they are just uneducated, unworldly, untraveled, immoral, uncivilized, and stupid.
Don't try to convince stupidity not to accept enlightenment.
So get out of the garbage, go to the direction of your dreams, and live the life you love.
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