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I don't know if you have ever met such a person, whether you have something to do or not, I always call you regardless of the occasion; when you are not wearing headphones, I have to send you a long voice, which makes you speechless.
You tell him, he still does not listen, blindly talk to himself, to tell the truth, is really very annoying.
So why do people like to get along with people with high EQ now, because they are very comfortable with them.
Some people sum up several characteristics of people with high EQ, among which the most favorite is that they can talk, because it is easy to communicate, and chatting will make people happy. They will think twice before saying what they should say, and firmly do not say what they should not say.
Just like a topic recently initiated by Weibo, it is to ask us to think rationally and be responsible for the consequences of our words and deeds before we say or do things.
I especially like the interpretation of teacher Chen Ming that only when one is warm and pure can one be qualified to pursue love and freedom, otherwise it is all freedom in your name. Like speaking and typing, you have to go through your head before you come out.
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EQ is high, can talk, is a kind of surface cognition, the most fundamental, he is a kind person, has a compassionate heart, can compare heart to heart, attach importance to feelings, and can think of others.
When it comes to the high EQ in the entertainment industry, it is easy to think of he Yi.
In one issue of the yearning Life, Wei Daxun talked about acting and said:
Some places are obviously directors, let us act in this way, that must be the blame of the director, the final responsibility for the result must be our own actors. You see, your acting is not good or fake. In the end, it must be the director's fault.
This sentence is very straightforward, so that people can not answer, and the answer will offend a lot of people.
At this time, he Jie came to the rescue, saying that Wei Daxun should be talking about his last film, "Gardenia blossoms." he defused his embarrassment by making fun of himself.
The way of speaking does require the accumulation of emotional intelligence and some skills, but more to be based on the truth, heart to heart, from other people's point of view to think, in order to understand what others think.
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Confucius said: if you are not courteous, do not listen, do not see without courtesy, which means that those who should not see, those who should not listen, and those who should not say, are the smartest people.
In the American TV series Gossip Girl, boys and girls in the school do not hesitate to spread the secrets between friends in order to put themselves in the spotlight, resulting in round after round of rivalry, and in the end, the original good friends turn into enemies.
People with high EQ know what to say on any occasion, and they will never gossip regardless of the occasion because of the influence of others.
In fact, the so-called high EQ, can talk, in fact, let each other get along very comfortable, very at ease.
There are too many gossips around us, what we need to do is to keep our mouth shut, to be ourselves, not to drift with the tide, and to learn to be a high EQ person who always thinks about himself and thinks about himself in his spare time.
It takes us two years to learn to speak, but it takes a lifetime to learn to shut up.
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