While we are afraid of love and marriage, we yearn for eternity at the same time.

01

When I had dinner with my college classmates the other day, we talked about everything at the dinner table, but what impressed me most was that she was afraid of marriage. I was surprised to hear that, because she was the most urgent girl I knew to marry off.

She always thought so, but when her boyfriend told her that she wanted to marry, she found that she was afraid of marriage.

I can fully understand her mentality. Marriage is never a matter of one or two people. In our current living environment, marriage is a matter of two families, or even families.

Come to think of it, just a few years after graduation, young people who have just got used to the cruelty of society are old enough to talk about marriage and make the biggest decisions in their lives, such as uncertain relationships, uncertain sacrifices and an uncontrollable future.

Marriage is the most important choice in life, it is not a mock exam, there is no chance to start all over again, so I advise you to be cautious.

02

What is a good relationship? Just as Gao Xiaosong said in "Strange work": let us all be better ourselves. Pure self, sincere self, aboveboard self.

I have always envied the love between Monica and Chandler in Friends, perhaps because I saw a lot of myself in Chandler.

Neither of them is perfect, but they can tolerate each other, respect and cooperate with each other's idiosyncrasies.

Most of the time, I think Chandler is too feminine, not manly enough, and often chatting to death, but he really loves Monica, and he is afraid of marriage, which is the best proof of it.

I remember an episode in which Monica hired a stripper for Chandler, only to find out it was a prostitute. Monica rushed home to save the bewildered Chandler. After returning to their world, Monica jumped up to make up for the regret that he didn't have a stripper. That scene was really sweet.

03

Therefore, I think that love really has nothing to do with age, nor can we make do with it, let alone marry someone casually just because they are of marriageable age, nor can they throw themselves into their arms immediately just because they are rich. After all, they depend on others in life and hope to be respected by others, which is impossible.

No matter what age she is, I think the best state for a girl is to try her best to live her own life, enjoy one's happiness, and become better and better when she is not here. Only in this way, when a partner who is as good as us shows up, we will be more confident to join his arms.

But then again, who is not afraid of marriage and lonely at the same time?