If you make money, you can cure the suffering of marriage.

When the reader Xiaorou was chatting with me, she told such a story.

Xiaorou was invited to a colleague's house for dinner. Not long after the colleague moved into the new house she bought, the house was decorated with warmth.

A colleague and couple said that their savings for many years, together with the help of four old people, made a down payment on the house, and although it was not big, they finally had a home.

Their current goal is very clear: they plan to pay off the mortgage within ten years, have children within two years, then take over the elderly to help with the children, get promoted and get a raise within three years, and have to act like a person five years later.

The co-worker and his wife are very sweet, smiling at each other from time to time when talking, full of positive energy.

Xiaorou envies her and wants to make efforts to buy a house and plan her future.

When she got home, she saw her husband still playing games and eating leftover instant noodles on the table. this month's rent had not been paid and the house was in a mess.

At this moment, Xiaorou suddenly fell from ideal to reality. Her husband, a Phoenix man, sent money back to support her parents every month, but basically could not save any money.

Their wages are just enough to maintain the status quo, but their parents-in-law in their hometown have repeatedly urged them to have children.

But they have no house, no support, quarrel over trifles every day, and dare not have children at all.

Others earn money to repay the mortgage, but they are making money to repay the mortgage for the landlord. The husband is still addicted to games, does not communicate, does not communicate, and often loses his temper.

Xiaorou said that the marriage had exhausted her patience. If she had known the marriage was so bitter, she should not have got married.

However, I think that marriage itself is not bitter, because you do not know how to manage, you will feel very bitter, and earning money can cure the suffering of marriage.

If Xiaorou's husband can quit playing games and concentrate on his work. Xiaorou can put the right state of mind, do not compare with others, husband and wife set a small goal, can always live a better life.

Poverty is not terrible, the terrible thing is to accept fate.

Ten years ago, when I was studying at the Central Conservatory of Music, there was a piano teacher with great temperament. She was very beautiful and married well.

Let's call her Miss Mi. Teacher Mi's husband is her college classmate. Her family runs a company. There are more than a dozen properties and luxury cars.

Sometimes the student jokes with teacher Mi and teases that her husband is so rich that she can go home and be rich. She can go shopping, beauty, afternoon tea and vacation every day. There is no need to come out and work hard.

Teacher Mi smiled and said, "if I don't work, how can I afford the bags and cosmetics I like?" if I don't work every day to enjoy a high quality of life, I will try my best to please my husband. If one day he changes his mind, don't I have to fight on my own? When I really return to work, I will find that there is no place for me!

I was still very young at that time, and did not understand the moral of teacher Mi's words. Ten years later, I was already a wife and a mother, and it suddenly dawned on me that making money could cure most of the hardships, including marriage.

Some people say that marriage is so bitter, the worst is divorce, how free it is.

I want to say, if you don't make money, you don't even have the strength to divorce. Who will raise the children? How do you raise it? With what? It's all very realistic.

When I saw a speech by Yao Chen recently, I learned that she had given birth to a second child in the past two years. Only when she returned to show business after giving birth to her second child did she realize that everything had changed.

In the past, it was a market that valued acting skills, but now it has become a world of traffic stars. Yao Chen laughs at herself that her age is very embarrassing.

When Yao Chen said these words, there was a lack of confidence in her eyes. I wondered why Yao Chen, who used to be full of spirituality and carelessness, was suddenly embarrassed.

In fact, it is age, and suddenly not popular, that kind of anxiety, just like we ordinary women give birth to children to return to the family, two or three years later returned to the rivers and lakes, only to find that jianghu has forgotten me.

Yao Chen said: because of hard work, I have the right to choose, because being a mother, I understand the meaning of life, but also give me the courage to face the cruelty of life, these two identities are not contradictory.

My interpretation is that although women have to pay for their reproductive rights, you can't give up your career because you have children. You can leave for a short time, but you can't leave the workplace forever.

Because work to earn money is a cure, it can make you confident, attractive, happy, improve your EQ, pattern, and effectively reduce family conflicts.

After all, economic status determines family status, women with economic freedom are never afraid of divorce, while women who are not financially independent are most afraid of divorce.

The Indian film "Chinglish" is about a mother who doesn't know English. She takes care of her family as her whole life, but she is rejected by her husband and daughter at home because she doesn't know English.

Later, she signed up for four weeks of English classes, in which the hostess made all kinds of friends and encouraged each other to make common progress in order to learn English well.

The heroine who worked hard to learn English day and night went from zero to shining at the wedding banquet. the blessing told by the couple in English not only won her the impression of everyone, but also let her win the love and respect of her family.

I was impressed by a line from the hostess, who said:

If you don't like yourself, you will hate everything around you. If you learn to love yourself, everything around you will gradually become attractive. The originally silent life will become new and beautiful.

Maybe the process of transformation is painful, but a word from the hostess makes me feel the same way. She said, "I don't need love, I just need respect."

Indeed, respect is the premise of love, but it is a pity that many people do not know how to respect you in the name of loving you and telling you what to do in front of everyone.

The shortcut for women to gain respect is to earn money. when you encounter conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, widowed marriage, asexual marriage, and differences in values, and you can't find a solution, you can try to focus on your work, earn money and then figure it out slowly.

One day, you will find that you have achieved financial freedom, that you can afford to buy what you want, that you can live the life you want, that little bitterness in your marriage, and that big pig's hoof. If you can't handle it, let him go.

Making money can cure all hypocrisy, but also cure the suffering of marriage, a vibrant day, from 09:00 in the morning, drinking coffee to turn on the computer to work.

Finally, to tell the truth: men are big pig's feet, don't take them too seriously, make good money, and be a warm and beautiful woman.

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