If you give your child Jinshan and Silver Mountain, you might as well do it well.

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There is a profession in the world, once engaged in, you can't quit for life, and you have to be on duty 24 hours a day.

There seems to be no leadership but no freedom, there seems to be no workflow but full of uncertainties and unknowns, these are parents.

No one is born with qualified and excellent parents. It is through constant introspection and learning that we can grow into parents worthy of being learned and relied on by our children.

Countless parents hope to send their children to the best schools, receive the best education, and try their best to create the best educational environment for their children.

But it is often overlooked that parents are the best teachers for their children. For children, the best education is that parents can really understand themselves.

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In the latest issue of Metamorphosis, the family model of a protagonist has been hotly discussed by netizens.

In the program, Zhang Mingyang's parents think that their children are arrogant and domineering, ignorant and ignorant, and there is nothing they can do about their temper, so they invited the program group to want their children to change themselves.

Zhang Mingyang is 16 years old and has just been expelled from school for fighting, smoking and contradicting his teacher. Then Zhang Mingyang, who dropped out of school, didn't care about it.

The program showed a picture of a family having dinner. Zhang Mingyang was lying on the sofa playing with his mobile phone. His parents and sister asked him to go to dinner in exchange for a blind eye.

Later, he was half pushed to the dinner table by his father. in the face of a series of family questions about whether or not to go to school, Zhang Mingyang blew up again, dropped the bowl and chopsticks and left the table.

At this time, the father sighed, the mother had an angry heart attack, and the child hid in the room and refused to show up again.

At first, I would accuse my children of being too ignorant and would only contradict their parents. But a later interview changed my mind.

In the interview, Zhang Mingyang said that because when he was in primary school, the head teacher accidentally said in the class that his parents were in the funeral business, so he was excluded by his classmates.

When I go home, I want to talk to my parents about their situation at school, only to find that they are only busy with their work and have no time to think about their own situation at school.

So, since then, the seeds of contradiction have been planted.

In order to protect himself, so he learned to be arrogant and domineering, and wrapped himself with thorns so that he no longer had to be bullied. It's just that on this road, he went so far away that people around him began to think that he was stirring up trouble.

When describing his family, Zhang Mingyang will say: no love, desolation, prefer to be alone.

They will not think why I lost my temper, they will just think that I have lost my temper, but I have made a mistake and will criticize me.

In fact, Zhang Mingyang really wants to get the love and care of his parents, but he only misunderstands and misses again and again, so that he can only use this way of losing his temper to win attention.

Parents think that as long as they work hard and give their children a good material life, they leave the rest to the school.

Unexpectedly, parents are always the first harbor in the hearts of their children.

Children need the understanding and love of their parents, not just money or criticism.

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Understanding is the best love parents can give to their children.

No matter how busy parents are, they should learn to listen to their children's troubles and be a listener and contributor even if they can't help them solve their problems.

If Zhang Mingyang's parents can come out and tell their children that any profession is worthy of respect when their children are laughed at by their classmates for the first time, but your classmates don't understand.

Or when the child feels lonely, set aside a little time at work to accompany the child, maybe Zhang Mingyang will not become the arrogant and domineering he is today.

Being able to be read, listened to and understood is the best love a child can get.