In old age, all honor and money are fleeting, and a useless child is enough to make your evening scene bleak.
There is one thing that is indispensable in children's education. That is education to endure hardships.
Especially if there is a boy in the family, this is even more indispensable.
Because a man who is afraid of suffering is doomed to have no responsibility, you should not blame him for being irresponsible. It is true that he has no iron shoulder. What do you use to bear it?
If you can't bear hardships, you will eventually let people around you endure hardships, and you will also suffer. And the impact is lifelong.
If you look at the two old men in our village, you will have this feeling.
When you watch them pass in front of you, you will feel that the years are in a hurry, and life is only a few ten years.
One of the two old men in our village could not bear hardships when he was young and depended on his wife to take care of everything.
We all think she's bitter, but she doesn't seem to feel it. Maybe she thinks she's the one.
There is also a family is not the case, the old man is working every day, at home and outside the busy, the family is moist and comfortable, walking outside is also tall and straight, respected by people.
It is not terrible to bear hardships, and labor gives people dignity.
Many people grow up to look like they don't like, and they are broken from their roots when they grow up.
Family education, especially the concept of parents, is the key.
We will find a very strange phenomenon.
If a family has several siblings, if it has a sister and the last one is a brother.
Most of the younger brother can't bear hardship or fatigue.
Because when I was young, my parents were in pain, and I had my sister to protect me when I was in trouble.
Many parents who have children in middle age cherish them more and more and regard them as the apple of their eyes.
If you are not careful, the love of your parents will tilt towards the smaller one.
Many parents don't want their children to suffer a little.
I indulge my children frugally, and as a result, my life is tied up by my children.
A mother once left a message that her husband had a brother in his family who was spoiled. Now he is 26 years old and never thinks of others. The family conditions are not good. His parents-in-law are both rural farmers and are reluctant to buy some delicious food during the Spring Festival. But what about himself? he bought his iPhone, went abroad to play, and asked us to borrow 20,000 yuan to fix his nose. I thought he was ignorant before. It turned out later that they were all used to by his parents. Moreover, my mother-in-law also said that he had been like this since he was a child, and he couldn't do without getting what he wanted.
So I take care of my own children. I don't need her help. I don't want my children to be like that.
Every time I see such parents, I feel distressed.
What makes them willing to become a parasite and raise parasites?
Doting will only harm the child.
Some mothers will tell their children that all you have to do is to read good books and don't worry about other things.
So don't let the children do the housework, and don't let the children meddle in the big and small matters of the family.
Many children grow up and don't know how much a bag of salt is and how much a barrel of oil is.
Tell children that life has sweetness, but also bitterness, and no one can casually succeed.
There must be a sense of hardship for the child. If you can't help, don't help. It's good for the child to sweat a little and suffer a little loss.
Usually let children do more housework, actively participate in work-study activities, older children can also participate in volunteer activities, to do what they can, exercise their hands and feet.
Parents should let their children have a spirit that is not afraid of hardship, let their children know from an early age that labor is glorious, can win dignity for a person, and only through hard work can a person's value be realized.
These words sound like slogans, but many years later, when a child in his late 30s still asks you for money to eat, he will understand the importance of education to endure hardship.
Therefore, education to endure hardships should be carried out as soon as possible.
It can also let children feel the power of suffering from stories and books, so that the spiritual world can be filled. When they encounter setbacks, children will not immediately choose to give up, but also can withstand the blow.
Tell this story when the child is young, and when the child is older, you can read books, such as Lu Yao's "ordinary World", "Gadfly" and "how Steel is made". These are all very good books. When a child falls in love with reading, there are many more teachers. Will also be exposed to more ideas.
To be a parent, you should not only let your children feel your support and unconditional love, but also have far-reaching wisdom.
Love needs the air of freedom and the courage to let go.
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