A woman's best view of life

01

If you rely on yourself, you will stop the loss.

Lin Xi once published a book, No matter how Deep the Sky is, in which there is a passage, which is very beautiful:

Commitment is a double-edged knife, I believe that to become the only dependence on happiness, even if there is no wind and waves, but also live in unease. Learn to follow the fate in order to be happy; if you can't get it back, you have to stop the erosion. Live happily not only by your own hands, but also by your own heart.

Don't put too much faith in the promises given to you.

Don't believe what your parents say, they will protect you for a lifetime, they will grow old, they will be unable to walk, they will be powerless, once they protected you well, you have to protect them for the rest of your life.

Don't believe what your partner says, he will love you for the rest of his life, he will be unreliable, water will flow, you will rely too much on him, even if there is no wind and waves, he will be uneasy.

With your own hands, you can still have the ability to live well, even if the environment changes again.

Rely on your own heart, even if the personnel changes, you will not indulge in the loss of sadness, can not extricate yourself.

You will understand that many things, many people, encounter is fate, loss is doomed, does not belong to you will eventually go, belong to you how can not run away, so you, life will be much happier.

You will understand that you can't be entangled by bad things all the time, you can't be held hostage by bad people, bad love will get out in time, and if you are not suitable for a job, you will find a way to start over and get out of the uncomfortable circle of friends as soon as possible.

You will understand that timely stop-loss is the key to a happy life.

You can't be filled with things that aren't worth it. You can insure your life on your own.

02

Don't make do with it, don't look back

In the classic animated movie BoJack Horseman, there is a line:

You can't keep doing bad things, & ensp; and then regret it, as if regret is useful, you need to get better.

There is no medicine for regret in the world, and life cannot avoid doing something that annoys you, but what has happened has been established and cannot be changed. If you want to turn the gear of life upward, you must learn to change your mindset.

Don't always look back at the things that make you embarrassed, unwilling, and sad. It won't help but sprinkle salt on the wound.

Every time you start to look back and get confused in your life, remind yourself to do well in front of you, because as long as you take good care of what is in front of you and cherish the people in front of you, it will be good enough.

Know that it is difficult not to recall, but if you do it in this way, you can imperceptibly influence yourself. Slowly you will let it go, and slowly you will find that even if you think of the past, there will not be too many waves in your heart.

If you can't get out of a bad life for a while, please don't give up on yourself, don't make do with it, don't say it to yourself, that's it.

Your life is still long, don't say it.

Your life still needs you to create fireworks. Don't stand still.

There is a good saying: there is no age to get married, only lovers who should get married.

If you are urged to marry, you can go on a blind date, but don't marry yourself easily.

If you have no money for the time being, don't forget your hobbies and dreams. You make money now so that you can do what you like one day.

Don't look back and don't make do with it in the future.

03

Know how to give, enough is enough

I like the sentence I saw on Douban very much:

If you are not on the same channel, you don't have to talk to each other reluctantly. Some relationships are enough; some words are enough; some worries are limited to lips and teeth.

Not all efforts will be rewarded as you wish. in this world, a lot of efforts are unrewarded, and many of them are laying the foundation for future harvest, and they will not get immediate results. Only a few of them can produce immediate results.

In fact, when you pay for one thing, and this thing is not necessarily on the same channel as you, just like you are a key, open the wrong lock, do not match, it will never be opened.

It is necessary to give, but it is more necessary to know how to pay properly.

As the old saying goes: fight rice to nourish grace, stone rice to nourish hatred.

Don't post it to pay. Many relationships are not hot at all. When you don't cover him one day, he will blame you for not warming him. Give a little good, he will be grateful, give a lot of good, will only indulge those who will not be grateful.

Some relationships should be weak, and some things should not be said.

Those who use your efforts to raise out of the enemy, from this moment on do not be so kind to him, those you waste time, it is better to be good to yourself.

That time and energy, in order to cook a delicious meal for themselves, to travel outside, lying down to read a book, a play, how relaxed and comfortable, free.

Enough is enough for love that is not answered, and enough is enough for what is not given in return.

04

When you can slowly understand the above three points, your view of life will gradually become transparent.

The best attitude towards life in this world is: it's good to have you, and it's okay without you.

Because you rely on yourself, will stop loss, do not make do, know how to give, love yourself, you will gradually become a better yourself.

In the face of the life and work in front of you, you have the ability to say: I am ready to fight for a long time, but also ready to evacuate at any time, life will never break me.

Without this job, I can find another one. It's good to have this job. I can be content with the status quo or make progress step by step.

In the face of feelings, you have the confidence to say: I am ready with you for a lifetime, but also ready for you to leave at any time, love to the depths of not entanglement, your love, will always be my icing on the cake, not timely help.

It's good to have you, really. I can do without you. I can take care of myself without you. If you are around, I have the ability to take care of you.

Only when oneself, become that better oneself, can not be afraid of wind and rain to come, will not be afraid of anyone to leave.

The best love is not indulgence, but you make me a better person.

The best way to grow is not to compromise, but to make me a person to rely on.

This is the best view of life.