If women want to have a good life, they have to read books and exercise.

A month ago, I accidentally stood in front of the mirror and found that I was so fat that I suddenly confirmed that I was really suffering from winter depression.

As the saying goes, if you don't lose weight in March, you will only be sad in April, May, June and July. After that glance, I decided to start exercising again. It's been going on for almost a month so far, at least three times a week, plus a proper diet.

There were also many thoughts of lazily giving up, because of muscle pain, I wanted to rest; I was so tired from work that I didn't want to go to the scheduled class again; or after overtime, I missed a bowl of hot Putian spaghetti noodles deeply, but this time, I could not help it.

When I went to work this morning and sat down for a long time, my colleague suddenly said to me, I found that you have lost weight recently, and you feel more like a young girl. Calm in mind, when you can stick to one thing for a month, even if the progress is slow, you will see the reward.

I do not know how many people are in my situation. Since childhood, most of them are slightly fat, not the fattest one in the crowd, so they will not be greatly stimulated. They will always live in the roles of ordinary faces, ordinary bodies and ordinary passers-by.

In fact, I don't envy long legs and miniskirts. I don't envy just because I took one more look at you in the crowd. I don't envy love letters and palpitations in junior high school and high school.

But this kind of me, will not be too much external stimulation, will not lose weight for health reasons, there is always no very strong motivation.

At this age (20-year-old tail), the purpose of making up your mind to lose weight is really to fulfill a wish in your life to see what you can become and what your body will be like to become better; but also for a healthier and better life.

In order to give myself some encouragement, I secretly set some small goals and expectations, such as when I lose weight, I will wear a beautiful little black dress and go to the concert hall in Gulangyu to listen to a concert; for example, when I am so thin, I will go to Zhihu's weight loss club to answer my experience of losing weight for so many years. For example, when I am so thin, I will fly to see someone I miss.

There is a saying that encourages people to lose weight, don't let yourself be fat in the best of times. I think the best time is when I move forward regularly and purposefully and feel that I am slowly realizing my wishes.

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In the past two years, I have found that my friends around me have gradually lived such a so-called self-cultivation, healthy and active life.

A friend in Wuhan, L, posted a Weibo message saying: I met my friend ABCD today, drank and chatted, and then got excited about talking about fitness on the beach. Several people started doing push-ups in groups. I see the heart warm, miss this group of lovely people, now can not help doing the same thing, out of almost the same state, the corners of the mouth can not help but smile.

A few years ago, when we were with L, what kind of life we had, such as youth indulgence, partying every night, often having dinner in the evening, barbecue, hot pot, talking about Haizi, M á rquez, Camus inspiration, but life was extremely irregular and unhealthy, and our bodies bulged like blowing balloons.

I don't know since when, probably over the age of 25, one by one began to exercise and run. Those who stay up late quit the habit of staying up late and begin to go to bed early and get up early to exercise; those who drink alcohol quit drinking and become middle-aged people who like to drink tea; the place for dating has become a gym, and the activity has become playing ball and hiking; the question discussed is how to avoid the gym pit and what kind of private training is better.

I like the present state of restraint, self-discipline and health, which makes me feel that everything is getting better. Just as I believe in Haruki Murakami's way of writing, writing not only depends on inspiration, but also requires long-term and regular persistence and self-discipline.

Bo Bonnie once wrote a story. When she was young, she was also a big fat man. At that time, she had a strong desire to eat everything, everything was delicious, and she seemed to be able to eat the world, and she also had a strong desire to write. But in fact, she has always been dissatisfied with herself and wants to lose weight. One day, she began to lose weight seriously and succeeded.

Bo Bonnie still writes a lot, but she is thinner, more beautiful and happier. As long as one has experienced the feeling of being thin, he will not want to go back to the fat world.

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If I can, I would like to go back to the past and tell myself a few years ago not to be afraid so much. You can do whatever you want.

"Please answer 1988" is my favorite TV series last year, in which there are many memorable places. What I want to say here is that A Ze's way of dealing with feelings has always been to hit the ball directly. If you like, I will give you whatever you want. I will come to see you without hesitation.

I realized that hitting the ball directly is actually a good way to face the difficulties of life, not only in the relationship. If you want to be thin, eat less and exercise more; if you want to be wiser and better, keep reading; if you have problems at work, you should learn more and ask more people for advice and find ways to solve them. Don't have too much entanglement and fear.

There is no difference between people who exercise and those who do not exercise every day, and there is no obvious difference every month, but there seems to be a gap every year, and every five years, it is a huge distinction between physical and mental state. Wait until 10 years to see the time, it may be a kind of life to another kind of life out of reach of the gap.

Compared with eating good food, watching entertainment programs, browsing on Weibo, watching TV dramas, reading books and exercising are relatively painful, but the people who do these things know that although the process is difficult, for the sake of happiness and happiness that may come, these things must be done.

Are you willing to sacrifice present happiness for the foreseeable happiness of the future? When you really do it, you will find that you will feel nothing more than what you thought was difficult in the past. Life never gets easier, you get stronger little by little.

The topic of a debate in the second season of "Strange stories" is: will spoiled women have a good life? I won't say anything about this topic for the time being. What I remember is one of the most classic sentences. The goddess Ma Weiwei told us when she concluded her speech.

Women are lucky, dependent on: reading, fitness, (see wonderful work said).

May you and I both be better people.