Are love and respect the same?

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Each of you.

When you love your wife

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Love yourself the same.

So should the wife.

Respect

Her husband.

-Ephesians 5 Pluto 33-

When it is acceptable

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Today we choose to follow you.

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Today we choose to follow you.

When your eyes look at the whole earth

May you find us.

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Now is the time to accept it.

When it is acceptable, you will come to perform salvation.

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We live for this moment.

Today we choose to follow you.

When your eyes look at the whole earth

May you find us.

Because we're here.

Now is the time to accept it.

When it is acceptable, you will come to perform salvation.

We are going to return to you with all our heart.

Return to you, our Lord.

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When you are Chinese, you will come and release us.

We are coming to surrender to you.

Surrender to your destiny.

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We are coming to surrender to you.

Surrender to your destiny.

Many wives tell me that "respect and love are the same concept". I replied, "No, they're not the same concept." For example, you respect your boss, but you don't love your boss. " During my marriage counseling for many couples, my wife usually gladly says, "I love my husband, but I don't feel the need to respect him." But when I asked her how she would feel if her husband told her, "I respect you, but I don't love you," they looked stunned and unbelievable, and said strongly, "it was a devastating blow to me." Obviously, wives can't accept this situation.

I once asked a wife, "how long will it take you to recover from this devastating blow?" Without thinking, she replied, "forever."

When the wife heard her husband say to her, "I respect you, but I don't love you", she immediately jumped up excitedly and retorted angrily. She would regard her husband as a cold-blooded animal with no love and no emotion. But she felt that she could make no secret of saying to her husband, "I love you, but I don't respect you." But what she doesn't know is that this sentence is also a devastating blow to her husband, who also needs "forever" to "recover" from this devastating disaster. From this we can see that the bottom line between husband and wife is that she needs the husband's unconditional love and he needs the wife's unconditional respect.

It's supposed to be obvious, isn't it?

At almost every love and respect seminar, people ask us, "Why?" Of course, all this is obvious. " Then the husband or wife would ask, "but why doesn't my half know?" Whether the husband doesn't understand or the wife doesn't, the answer is the same: we usually turn a blind eye to the most obvious things.

A door-to-door salesman rang the doorbell and waited at the door. A boy of about ten years old opened the door. Seeing him with a big cigar, perhaps the largest and most expensive cigar he had ever seen, the salesman was surprised and silent for several seconds before he got over it and asked, "is your mother home?" The little boy squinted at the salesman, puffed smoke into the salesman's face, then smiled badly and asked in a contemptuous tone, "what do you think?"

This is the crux of the problem. If the salesman had judged the matter a little, he would have known that the boy's mother was not at home. But sometimes, we don't always do things carefully, especially when we are faced with emergencies. Therefore, when a wife does not feel love in her husband's actions or words, she will be surprised and will not remember her disrespect for her husband, but the husband sees this very clearly; and when the husband feels that his wife does not respect him, he will soon do something to his wife that makes her feel unloving. Of course, the husband does not know that his actions have caused his wife a feeling of unlove. On the contrary, the wife saw it very clearly, which was the most obvious thing to her. Therefore, both husband and wife should bear in mind the following famous saying:

"it's always easy to see what others have done to us before we see what we have done to each other."

When sorting out how to slow down the rotation of the "crazy circle", it helps us recall that men were instructed to love their wives because they did not love naturally and instinctively. Women are instructed to respect their husbands because they do not instinctively and naturally respect them. If the theory of the relationship between love and respect makes sense and works in a marriage, then the wife, in particular, must first overcome any idea that the husband must win her respect first. I have tutored a lot of wives, they are very willing and willing to love, but they are not willing to respect. When these women do not feel loved, they often try to change and try to improve the situation with more love, which is their most natural behavior. However, when they encounter such a situation, it is difficult for them to show respect, even though this is not what they really want. Their behavior only reflects their emotions, and they do not realize that they are so disrespectful and impolite. Some wives may say, "he takes respect too seriously and exaggerates it. Isn't it a little too sensitive?"

Of course, this is certainly not the husband's problem, this is the problem of both of them. If the husband says, "do you take love too seriously and exaggerated?" Are you too sensitive? " How would the wife feel?

Of course the husband should do something about it. Because when they feel unrespected, it's easy to ignore their wife's true intentions, and it's hard to show loving behavior. So what makes the husband lose the ability to show love? Is this what the wife wants? No, not for any woman with basic goodwill. I believe that the men who are reading this book are decent and have a real gentlemanly demeanor. I appeal to men: to love your women, to try to understand, to see the world deep inside them.

This article is from "Men need to respect Women need Love"

The author Emerson Egledge

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