To learn self-discipline is the best way to treat yourself.

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Shopping with friends in the gold store, I was attracted by a platinum necklace with bright color and chic shape, because I only rewarded myself with an expensive necklace on my birthday not long ago. I hesitated to buy this one in front of me.

The shop assistant saw my hesitation and told me in a sweet voice: people must be kind to themselves and be willing to spend money for themselves in order to be worthy of this life.

At her instigation, I couldn't help trying it on for a while, and the more I watched it, the more I liked it. Seeing this, the shop assistant immediately took out another bracelet and said it was a good match for this necklace. I muttered, is it too extravagant? It's not extravagant at all. It's right to be nice to yourself! What's more, this group of necklaces and bracelets are so well-known, and the salesperson continues to fan the flames when you wear them.

I felt that she had come to my heart, so she gritted her teeth and took out the card and proudly took all the necklaces and bracelets into the bag.

When I went home and opened the jewelry box, I looked at several necklaces lying quietly. I instantly regretted that this was not the first time I had overspent and bought things, and each time it seriously affected my previous spending plan.

There may be many people like me who comfort themselves by living unscrupulously in the name of being kind to themselves, but the truth is that unrestrained kindness will only bring consumption and burden.

If you want to be kind to yourself, you must first learn to control yourself.

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When Xiao Wei first arrived in our company, everyone liked him.

First, because of his hard writing, all kinds of summary reports and speech manuscripts can be completed in quality and quantity as long as they are handed over to him. Second, because he is active and enthusiastic, in addition to often taking the initiative to work overtime, he is also willing to take the time to help colleagues, teaching this text typesetting today and downloading the program tomorrow.

However, just when everyone is optimistic about Xiao Wei's future, he is getting lazy day by day.

I learned later that these changes had taken place because there were always people around him who advised him to be kind to himself: why work so hard without overtime pay; if you have time to help others, you might as well leave it to yourself for fun; go out and make more friends while you are young. don't always immerse yourself in your work.

Xiao Wei no longer delves into business, watches movies and plays games on time after work; no longer helps weak colleagues, some people ask for advice is perfunctory; some jobs need to work overtime, he even directly refused. In less than three years, he had changed from a young man full of fighting spirit to a mediocre old Youtiao, gradually drifting away from the goal of promotion and raise. Reading and appreciation of American articles

He thinks that being kind to himself is equivalent to working lazily and playing comfortably, but he does not realize that this is actually the greatest disregard for himself. Because from the moment he indulged in pleasure, willpower has been shaken, not only lost self-control, but also lost the direction of the future.

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It was my colleague's birthday a few days ago. After the dinner, a group of us went to sing.

After singing for a while, the colleague's sister got up to say goodbye because she wanted to go home to bed at 09:30. We were a little surprised. After seeing off his sister, the colleague said that many years ago, his sister had suffered from severe bronchitis, which was so serious that he could not work properly. Seeing a doctor, taking injections and taking medicine had become his sister's daily routine. Later, a doctor clearly told his sister that the best way to cure the disease was to strengthen his physique, adhere to proper exercise, and maintain a good daily life.

When you are middle-aged, it is not easy to change your routine, but your colleague's sister did it: get up early and run early, go to bed early at night, sign up for a tennis class, and play tennis three times a week without interruption.

Slowly, her body became strong, her face ruddy, and the medicine jar got rid of. Now, nine years have passed, early to bed and early to rise and exercise have become the norm of her life.

Colleagues once advised her not to be so hard on herself, but the reply was: self-discipline brings me health, but also gives me the ability to control my life, which is the best way to treat myself.

Yes, being kind never means indulgence. Indulging yourself may get temporary happiness, but if you crave this superficial and superficial pleasure, you will often lose more.

To be really kind to yourself is to learn to abstain, support yourself, and then achieve your goals. Only by self-discipline and self-respect can we go a longer way.

Stop treating yourself as an excuse to indulge pleasure. If you want to lose weight, you must keep your mouth shut; if you want to get rich, you must take care of your wealth; if you want to succeed, you must keep your original mind.

To learn self-discipline is the best way to treat yourself.