When you reach middle age, you don't save three money, make three friends, or compare three things.

Recently I heard a joke: when people reach middle age, they feel like they have become a Journey to the West. The pressure of Wukong, the belly of Bajie, the baldness of Lao Sha, and the incompetence of the Tang monk, none of them can be missing. The key is that they are getting closer and closer to the western sky!

Although it is a joke, it hurts every word! When people reach middle age, they are old and young, and there is great competition for work, and their health is not as good as when they were young. So, in the middle of your life, it's time to learn to let go. The low water is the sea, and the low man is king. Letting go is not weakness, but strength.

01

Don't save three dollars

First, health money can not be saved

Many people may think: I am not sick, my health must be fine! But by the time the body has symptoms, it may be too late. When people reach middle age, all aspects of their bodies are not as good as they used to be.

The second half of life is about health. Instead of fighting for fame and wealth, it is better to put health first. The annual physical examination must not be saved, and the money for health care must not be saved. only in this way can we prevent it from getting worse.

Second, the money for medical treatment cannot be saved.

As the saying goes: a small hole is not mended, a big hole is five feet. It means that if there is a small hole in the dress, it is easy to mend, but when it is broken into a big hole, it cannot be mended even if you want to. See early and recover early, often see minor illnesses, but do not commit serious ones.

There is a folk saying: a minor illness drags, a serious illness carries, a critically ill waiting to see the king of death. As long as you are sick, no matter whether you are seriously ill or minor, you must go to see him.

Third, happy money can not be saved

People are under great pressure in middle age, so it is important to relax and relieve stress after being busy. In recent years, it is not uncommon for employees to die after working overtime and jump off buildings under excessive pressure of life.

If you like to travel, choose an ancient town in the south of the Yangtze River or an island beach to relax; if you like drinking tea, you can also buy a set of exquisite tea sets to drink calmly and cultivate your sentiment. After all, all you have to do in life is to smile and find that everything is no big deal.

02

Don't make three friends

You can't make friends with people with bad faces.

A person's face can reflect his life. If he has a bad temper, his face must be ferocious. If he is lazy and there is nothing but depression in his life, his face must be depressed.

Each other is born from the heart, planting good causes, getting good results; planting evil causes, getting bad results. Negative energy is contagious, if you make friends with it, those hostility and temperament will unknowingly come to you.

People with a strong sense of vanity are not allowed to hand in.

Vanity is not pride, pride is that you care about yourself, and vanity is especially concerned about what others think of you. In life, there are often some people who show off their wealth and show off their wages in the car room in moments. If he is not compared to him, he is complacent. If he is compared to him, he will have trouble.

Every vanity is jealous, lightly slanderous, gossiping, and heavy, destroying things and hurting people.

Third, those who like to take advantage of petty favors cannot be handed over.

They talk eloquently and always say nice things. When he asked him to pay back the money, he said that you were narrow-minded and kept in mind when you borrowed some money. You may think that if it is difficult to give a friend a hand, it doesn't matter if you take advantage of it.

But you should also understand: lust is hard to fill, and money can't buy true friendship.

03

No better than the three things

1. No comparison between children and grandchildren

The biggest contradiction between the two generations often starts with other people's children. Maybe your friend's child is admitted to 985, while your child is only admitted to an ordinary university, maybe your relative's daughter married a business boss, and your daughter is still single.

Those are not important, children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, their lives let them go, the template of happiness is never single.

Second, do not compare with money

When you were young, you may think that you can get everything with money, but now that you live half your life, you should understand that money does not necessarily buy true love, money does not necessarily buy health, money does not necessarily buy happiness.

Money is something outside the body, there is no need to compare, harmony is a blessing, good health is a blessing, and growing old together is also a blessing.

III. No comparison to marriage

Many people compare their husband or wife to others in terms of beauty, official position and salary, which will only lead to marital conflicts in the end. Marriage is like wearing shoes. Shoes are good but not necessarily suitable for the feet.

Life is for yourself, not for others, so why compare too much? The ancients said: would like to have one heart, white heads will not be separated. This is the best marriage.

In the middle of your life, keeping in mind the principle of the three-three-three system, keeping a happy home quietly, not causing trouble to yourself, not causing trouble to your children, and living in harmony is the best way of life.