How to survive the darkest moments in life

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It is probably the most prone to depression in spring and summer. Recently, I have received a lot of news from friends and readers, all of which are quite depressed.

The 23-year-old girl said that she had never played or been in love with the library at two o'clock every day for four years of college, but failed in the exam at the end of last year.

Living at home is nagged by my parents every day, and I can't find a suitable job, so I want to commit suicide.

The 27-year-old boy worked for three years and was tricked out to start a business together by his former boss. He was too busy to take care of his family every day, and his girlfriend of five years broke up as a result. He was in a car accident last month and was greeted by a three-minute phone call from his former boss, and the company's position was quickly replaced by a new confidant.

Lying in bed alone, he counted his gains and losses over the past few years, only to feel that the bamboo basket was in vain.

The 31-year-old girl broke up with her boyfriend who had been talking to her for more than a year because of her different values. it was even more embarrassing to see her friends getting married and having children.

There is no breakthrough in career, there are many emotional situations, none of them come as planned, and there is nowhere to say full of anxiety and distress.

Helpless, hopeless and distraught, I call it the darkest moment of my life.

It's like being abandoned by the whole world, there is nothing to be happy about in life, no light, no company, no love, no warmth. A person does not know the direction in the dark and damp aisle, does not know how long he can hold on, and does not know when he will endure to the end.

But this is not even the most frightening, the most excruciating is the self-doubt that accompanies the process:

You're so stupid. You're a loser. You're wrong. You really suck. This exhausting self-loathing can really destroy a person completely.

I hope these four tips on how to survive these darkest moments will help you.

Don't let your emotions ferment.

I wrote about a girl around me in my previous article.

Encountered boyfriend cheating, brought emotion to work, made a big mess, was punished and went to the nightclub to drink and get drunk. She was almost taken away by a strange man and broke her arm during the struggle. The company simply gave her a letter of dismissal to let her go.

I watched helplessly as her life was like an out-of-line sweater, falling off quickly from the first stitch and developing into an unmanageable mess.

That is a very important lesson in my life. When people have bad luck, they often mistakenly think that they have hit rock bottom and can never be bad again.

But in fact, this is not the case, life is a bottomless pit, you dare to add mistakes, it will make you fall.

People often like to add when they are in a bad mood, collecting all the subtle things in life like a vacuum cleaner, even if it is not going well emotionally, it will connect you to your family, friends and work. Dissatisfaction with society as a whole.

But don't do this.

Don't allow sadness and resentment to ferment yourself. It is unwise to say bad words, drink and get drunk. If you are really sad, just cry yourself.

When you can't make your life better, at least don't make it worse.

Don't make do with it, don't make do with it

Don't find a company to work for just because you failed in the postgraduate entrance examination and missed the best recruitment season.

Don't marry someone just because you are old and your friends are in pairs.

As long as you bow your head and accept it, the solution that I will let you live is unwise, and life will not be nice to you just because you have compromised.

On the contrary, the rest of life is more like a swamp, the surface is calm, but let you sink deeper and deeper day after day, until finally there is no chance to get out, passers-by can not understand your struggle, still think you are playing in the water.

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It wastes your time, suppresses your abilities, and forces you to endure nausea and learn to flatter yourself. Every day and every night, I ask myself, is it only worthy of such a job? Lose all your self-confidence.

There are really bad marriages in the world.

Never-ending quarrels and cold war, never-ending housework, never love the other half, want to get rid of but do not dare to get rid of unwilling, grievances and resentment gradually become the deepest marks engraved on your face.

You can't escape from another with a life you don't like. Anyway, don't make do with it and keep your bottom line.

Don't rush to criticize yourself.

In another city, choosing a job after quitting naked, making a list of all your shortcomings and vowing not to be a human being is not what you should do in the darkest hour.

People are not as rational as they think they are when they are very depressed. Your so-called deliberation is nothing but anger and escape, which will only make your life worse.

Self-criticism at this time is often too harsh and won't do anything but convince you that you're bad.

The worse your life is, the more you need to control the changes around you. Self-reflection not only takes time, but also requires a relatively stable environment.

Only by ensuring your income, your familiar living environment, and your self-esteem and self-confidence will not be devastated, can you really calm down and give yourself time to deal with what's going on in your life.

If you really want to change something, lose weight, get your teeth fixed, and get a new haircut.

Don't take it. Go and give it.

When we are in a bad mood, we often show a state of taking, asking for comfort, advice, understanding and hugging.

Half is really not the strength to pay, half is to ask for so that do not let see their own bad and grievances.

But what if you are seen? One or two words of encouragement, three or five times of comfort, cure the symptoms but not the root of the problem. In the final analysis, you have to carry the bad life on your own.

And the most effective way to get back strength is not to want, but to give.

Buy a bag of cat food for stray cats in the community, change shifts for colleagues who want to pick up children temporarily, donate blood once, and donate fifty cents to children in poor mountain areas in Alipay.

Man is the strangest animal, and he can acquire the power of resurrection full of blood just by knowing that he is needed.

I like Liu Yu's saying that fate belongs to fate and our own, and this may be the best attitude for us to face the darkest moments of our lives.

Fate does its job, you do yours.

You may not be able to beat it, but it will pass.