Be a person with palms down

Some people say that people in the world can be divided into two kinds, one is those with upward palms, and the other is those with downward palms.

The palm of the hand is to hold out the palm of the hand to ask for it, just like a beggar, asking for help from others.

And people with downward palms don't just ask for it.

They know how to give, and they also know how to reach out and grasp what they want.

In this world, there is no happiness without hard work, everything you want depends on yourself.

Life and love are the same, reaching out to ask for it will make people lose their independence and dignity.

So whenever you do, remember to remind yourself:

To be a person with downward palms, you have to earn what you want.

01

Palms down, you should know how to give.

Last year, I traveled to a mountain area with my friends, where I met a little girl about eight years old.

The girl is the child of local residents, often playing outside, chatting several times, gradually getting familiar with it.

Once I happened to have a few toffees in my pocket, so I took them out and gave them to her.

The girl smiled, took my candy, left a sister, you wait for me to run away.

After a while, she came back out of breath and put a little flower in my hand.

Sister, this little flower is for you. Thank you for the candy.

The flowers in the palm of the hand are goose yellow, the color is warm, and the heart warms instantly.

A candy is not worth much, but it is given to her casually. But in this girl's heart, she is seriously treated as a gift and knows how to return it.

A wild flower is not so precious, but it is also the girl's most sincere heart of gratitude.

That afternoon, a candy, a flower, simple enough to touch the heart.

In this materialistic era, we always want a lot, thinking about asking others for life every day, and often forget that besides getting, there is another word called giving.

When I was in college, there was such a classmate, let's call him Xiao A.

Xiao A likes to ask for help to do all kinds of things.

Whenever it's time for dinner, ask others to help you with the meal.

If you don't buy body wash, shampoo and other daily necessities, they are all for the use of others.

At first, everyone was willing to help, but it was a trivial matter.

But over time, we found that Xiao A took other people's help for granted, no longer said thank you, casually is: XXX, help me

To make matters worse, when others ask him for help, he will try his best to get rid of it.

Later, everyone gradually moved away from him and no longer had anything to do with him.

It is impossible to keep people's hearts if you only want to benefit from others and are not willing to give.

Palms down, to get rid of the mentality of selfishness, give something.

Only when you give with all your heart can you get the same sincerity.

02

What you want, you have to earn it.

There is no free lunch or happiness without hard work.

Learn to give to others, but also learn to pay to yourself and take the initiative to strive for what you want.

This is also what my good friend Ah Huan has experienced deeply.

A Huan just entered the first year of the workplace, there is a very confused stage.

She works conscientiously and responsibly, accomplishing every task ordered by her boss conscientiously and dutifully, and there are few mistakes.

But after a while, her colleagues who joined her at the same time showed signs of promotion, but she was still doing the same basic work day after day.

It was not until one day when she saw her colleagues' weekly reports and plans that she realized that the mistakes she had made were not proactive enough.

Colleagues will summarize the work done every day and submit the weekly report to the boss on their own initiative.

And she just needs to do her job.

Colleagues will make work plans, after doing the work at hand, will think about how to optimize, bring more benefits to the company, and even often run around to develop new customers.

On the other hand, she just works step by step, clocking in from 9 to 5, and seldom takes the initiative to think about anything other than the task.

The leader will naturally give him more opportunities when he sees the enthusiasm and thinking of his colleagues.

Although Ah Huan does not make mistakes at work, he lacks initiative and has less room for progress.

In this era of fierce competition, if you just stand where you are, you will be left far behind by those who run forward.

Only the palm of the hand down, take the initiative to attack, the opportunity to rely on their own.

03

No matter how hard you are, you must have a job.

In the TV series Mr. Love, Gu Yao's husband has an affair and her marriage is torn to pieces.

I was very impressed by what the man said on the day of their divorce.

He said: anyway, I have come to support you all these years. I wear the best clothes and live in the best house. What are you doing when I work hard to earn money outside? What have you given to this house that the wind can't blow and the rain can't catch?

Gu Yao's heart trembled and she was completely disappointed to the extreme.

She cried: it was you who begged me to be a stay-at-home wife on your knees. It turns out that in your heart, I have always been a person who opened his mouth and clothes to stretch out his hand and enjoy the success.

It is impossible to say exactly who is right and who is wrong at the end of this marriage.

But one thing is certain, Gu Yao made the biggest mistake in this marriage: to give everything to the man.

Maybe he really promised to take care of her for the rest of his life.

But in the flashy world, who can guarantee that the human heart will remain the same forever?

Depend on each other to live, which makes the relationship between two people begin to be in an unequal position.

Over time, as soon as some details of life friction appeared, those affectionate feelings were left behind, leaving me in battle outside, the memory of you in good food and clothing at home.

So there is a saying: no matter how hard and tired you are, you must find a job.

Especially for women, when you reach out and ask for money, you have already lost your position in this relationship.

Money is sense of security, but work is strength. Only when we are economically independent can we have the right to choose.

Relying on others, sense of security is in a state of uncertainty at any time, and the best way to rely on it is always on yourself.

Wipe your tears by yourself, and get up if you fall.

Palms down, do not rely on others, only on their own.

04

I like a passage very much:

When you are lonely, comfort yourself; when you are lonely, give yourself warmth.

Rough road, give a warmth to the side; wind and rain life, give yourself a smile.

No one can always accompany who, for the rest of our lives, we are the protagonists of our lives.

Virginia Woolf said:

Once a person has an independent personality, he will no longer be confused and waste his time. In other words, there will be a moderate sense of fulfillment and happiness throughout life.

Depending on others in the palm of your hand may be easy, but you will live in fear of loss all day long.

Only be independent, hold what you want in your hands, put your heart at ease, and win the respect of others.

From now on, be a person with palms down and live an independent life.

A little less hypocritical, a little more effort.