A forty-year-old man gives you a heads up.

I'm almost 40. Maybe I'm halfway through my life, which means I'm going from an idol to a real power. well, it's so shameless. I woke up at midnight last night and looked back on the road I took. I think there are several things that are very important. I won't nag about such basic things as physical health and exercise. I will just say a few other things, as a kind advice from a big brother, hoping to give some inspiration to the young people who are rushing to my age.

one

Reading is very important.

A person who is good at reading can fulfill his own need for learning. Of course, there is no harm in not reading, but it is easy to indulge in the real world. For example, you can get a glimpse into other people's lives by reading a biography. You can read a psychology book and gain insight into your own situation. You can read a history book, see the sword and understand that no matter how brilliant life will settle down. Reading allows you to travel back and forth in history, future, reality and emptiness, and then find more possibilities in your life.

Therefore, for a person, reading is always the continuous tense, not the perfect tense.

Through reading to improve themselves, improve themselves will meet better people, the level of communication is determined by their own quality. You never read, naturally meet most of the superficial and material people, talk about nothing but trivial Prada Elle. Even if you meet a better person, you will scare you away, do not speculate more than half a sentence, meet a smile SayGoodbye. What kind of person you are determines what kind of friends you will have and what kind of lover you will have.

two

Learn to get along with loneliness

A person who can't enjoy loneliness is actually very lonely. Many people attend various party salons every day, and he can't calm himself down because he is afraid of being alone and getting along with himself. Because as long as you get along with yourself, you need to talk to your heart. So he needs a lively environment to find his own sense of existence, so he is actually very lonely. A person who can't be alone with himself usually doesn't have much wisdom.

Loneliness is actually a very high attitude in life. Because you know how to take care of your inner needs.

One day you will understand that no matter how hard you try, not many people care. More people just want to see the results, and it has nothing to do with them how hard your process is. I have lost my luggage on several flights until the middle of the night at the airport and then take the bus to Shijiazhuang in the middle of the night. Classes start from 8: 00 to 9: 00 in the morning, just to make a promise to my customers. I think I'm great.

The client said leisurely: you really shouldn't be so haggard.

At once, a thousand pieces of grass mud crossed the road and expressed their greetings to his ancestors of eight generations.

So, you climb over the mountains, no one understands your hard work. You raise your arms and shout, and few people share your joy.

In the final analysis, life is a self-redemption for loneliness, and the sooner you learn it, the better.

three

Find what you really like to do.

In a short life in a hurry, if you don't do what you like, isn't it a waste of work? Only by doing what you like can you really stimulate your potential and accomplish the mission of life. Some people say I want to open a flower shop, so why don't you open it? He also said that the conditions were not ripe. Then why don't you create the conditions?

I can't write a good article. I used to think my computer was not beautiful enough. If I don't go running every day, I used to think that I didn't buy my favorite sneakers. I didn't bother to travel. I thought I hadn't bought the camera and lens I wanted. Give yourself a lot of reasons not to start something. In fact, it is missing the beginning of a grit of teeth and a stomp.

Many things, as long as you start to take the first step, you can't stop at all.

four

Be who you really are

Don't please everyone, it's unstable to curry favor with acquired relationships. Only by being yourself, can you attract true friends, and this relationship can really last. People who are good to everyone are doomed to have no real friends, no one will offend, and there will be no principles. By the same token, there is no true love for people who love everyone. True love for a person is that I love people in the world, but give you something different. So when you meet someone who says you love you, you don't have to be very excited. Maybe he is so ambiguous to everyone. Falling in love with someone will be different, that is, it will divide the world into others and you.

Do not regard everyone as friends, many relationships do not need to be too close, contact with so many people every day, not everyone wants to be friends, many people are just scratching the surface. Hello, my name is so-and-so. Nice to meet you. Goodbye. The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, there is no need to exchange privacy and do not need to add Wechat, most of the resentment is because of being too close, close is not bad, the original polite relationship, began to become yin and yang strange, each other uncomfortable. Only when there is distance, there will be respect.

Who is your bosom friend? Have the same values, have some of the same hobbies, and if you have something to say together, it's best to be interesting.

Making friends, fun is a very important yardstick, interesting can be reflected in a certain field of expertise, can be reflected in the food proficiency, can be reflected in the unruly worldly courage, can also be reflected in the whims of chatting. It's relaxing because it's fun, and you don't have to be bitter because it's fun and you don't want to avoid it. Interesting, maybe it can be summed up to one point, because you can find yourself, so you don't put pressure on others.

five

Be mature in dealing with emotional matters

As you get older, you must understand that you can't have anyone. You like a person, like crazy, you can not possess her, even if you have crazy sex with her, seven times a night, put on clothes the next day, she is still her, she will never become a part of you. Everyone belongs to her, all you can do is to accompany her. Anyone who tries to claim possession will eventually be frustrated and become an emotional prisoner.

After falling in love, no one can guarantee that you will never meet someone more attractive, richer, more beautiful, more gentle, more in line with expectations, better understand you, are you surrendering, or are you unyielding? So love is not just impulse and passion, but a commitment. Fall in love with you so there is a commitment to you, because of this commitment, no matter how excited will be the ripples in the heart, control the waves are not happy.

I think this is a mature personality. Seeing a person who is attracted to love one, this kind of person is promiscuous, and the result of abusive love is to fall into nihilism in the end, because if you love everyone, you will not be able to get the reward of attention. without this kind of return, there will be no happiness.

six

Accept someone or something that leaves you.

As people get older, they should gradually be psychologically prepared to accept some reality, such as parents will grow old and leave. Before that, ask yourself if there is anything in return for parenting, no matter how proud you are outside, as long as your parents are alive and come back to them, they feel like they are still a child. If one day push open your parents' door, there is no familiar face to smile at you, it means that no one in this world will love you selflessly with life.

In addition to your parents, friends may also leave you. Along the way of life, there will be old friends leaving you constantly. They may not be able to keep up with you, or they may choose another way. Don't be sad. They must have a good end-result. Of course, there will be new friends close to you along the way, and they will be attracted by your firm pace and unique temperament. Different stages of life are accompanied by different friends, cherish this peer time, can go to the end together, why force.

A friend may leave, and so may a lover. If the person I love wants to leave me, I will only say two words: OK. Never ask why? How could you do this to me? What on earth did I do wrong to make you do this? Since you have decided to leave, there must be a reason why you are ready. I don't want to hear your high-sounding excuse for a long time. The necessity of leaving does not belong to me. I wish you good luck. From then on, the past has been written off. Life is short, I don't live in memory.

Finally, I would like to sum up my current attitude towards life, that is: do your best and listen to your destiny. Worthy of the heart, not perplexed in love. Go with the trend and be comfortable with the situation. To know a mistake is to correct it, and to go astray is to return. Focus on those who like you, and forgetful on those who don't like you.

Such a life, very good.