There is a kind of cleverness called thinking of others.

01

Last weekend, I went back to my relatives in the countryside.

I personally made a spicy pepper fish at noon.

Just as I was stir-frying the seasoning in the oil pan, the aunt said that there was less Douban and suggested that I put a little more.

As a result, at lunch, other people praised that the fish tasted good, but the auntie didn't eat much, but picked up other dishes on the table.

So I asked her, is it my cooking that is not delicious? She said with a simple and honest smile, delicious, but I can't eat spicy food.

At that time, I felt very strange, so I asked, "you can't eat spicy food, why did you just let me add so much Douban?"

'i just thought, everyone likes spicy food, so you can't lighten the taste for me, 'she said.

The aunt stayed in the countryside all her life and has always been an authentic farmer. She really didn't read any books or had a high culture, but she has always been respected by people in the village. I think this has something to do with her habit of thinking of others. It's inextricably linked.

In fact, everyone is not a fool, everything from their own preferences, almost people's instinctive behavior.

But those who, even if they eat a simple dish, have other people in their hearts, always live a very kind and generous life.

Nowadays, many people live selfishly, not only on the major issues of right and wrong, without the slightest concession, but also in the face of trifles.

But in the end, you will find that the really smart people are not smart about everything and only care about themselves, but those who have other people in their hearts even in trivial daily life.

Because only such people can gain the trust, support and more good popularity of others.

02

I usually go to work in the morning and am used to going to a fixed parking lot. Several times, I found that a car owner, every time the old man who charged, walked to his car and recorded the time and license plate number, always habitually turned off the headlights and headlights.

When he could stop, he turned on the light again, and the other drivers, who thought it was troublesome, did not do so, or even thought of it, but he thought so carefully that the direct light was too harmful to his eyes.

On one occasion, the car owner forgot to bring money, and there is a rule in the parking lot that only cash is accepted. The old man who could charge was so generous that he let him go first, saying that it was not too late to make up for it if there was change in the bag tomorrow.

At that time, I was particularly surprised, because after parking here for more than half a year, I met many car owners, because they had no money in their bags and were not allowed to pay by mobile phone, so they had no choice but to walk a long way to withdraw money from a nearby bank.

Of course, it is not that these people do not want to give money, but the uncle who collects fees refuses all promises and reasons and says that he is not allowed to owe anything, not even a dollar.

It was only later that I learned that the trust, which seemed to be a few yuan, was actually acquired by the car owner in exchange for his understanding of others.

There are many smart people in this world. But it is extremely difficult to really get others to give you full trust.

Because when everyone's heart can only hold themselves, they will become very selfish and can't see others at all, but when you put yourself in other people's shoes and think for others, even a small detail is enough to move people.

03

I know an editor of a publishing house who told me that he would help hundreds of authors publish books every year. You can get a glimpse of the level of many authors by seeing how they submit their manuscripts.

For example, for manuscripts that also hand in about 100, 000 words, some authors, regardless of font size, distance, or punctuation, send you a Word document, which is full of words, allowing you to slowly break sentences and sort them out.

Some authors, even for their own convenience, anyway, she wrote an article and gave you one. She didn't even know how much she had written. She asked you every time if she had enough words, so she continued to write.

Only a small number of authors, they will strictly follow the word requirements, and then organize their own manuscripts, mark the order, and will make a separate table to arrange the title of each article in turn, so that you can see at a glance, very clear.

The editor said that in fact, an excellent author is not only good at writing articles, but also very good at promoting himself and others and thinking of others in dealing with others.

So usually, he will allocate more publicity and recommendation opportunities to a small number of authors who do not create a mess, but save him time and effort all the time.

To do the same thing, some people will try their best to lighten the burden of others from the point of view of others, while others only live in their own way of thinking and have no idea of the trouble it brings to others.

Usually the former is more popular, more promising, and even gets more good luck. Because only those who take the initiative to serve others can get the same care and help from others. And people who are too selfish are often limited by themselves.

04

There is no shortage of so-called smart people in this world.

Because from their own interests and point of view, there will be many obvious benefits. To think of others, it is bound to waste a lot of time, spend a lot of energy, and even do a lot of things without any return.

So some people, go to dinner, just order their favorite food, and then good wine and meat, just put it into their own mouth, do not want to save some for others. To do things, just do it for your own convenience, anyway, the less you do, the better, and you don't care about each other's workload at all.

But there are also such people who, when looking for you, would rather take the time to send you a text message, but also try not to speak, because considering that you are busy, busy, or inconvenient to listen.

When they eat with you, they always take into account your tastes and opinions, even if they do not like, also try to compromise, and even they will specially order for you as a way to eat, so that you do not have any psychological burden.

In fact, everyone has an account in mind. Whether you are selfish or selfless, whether you only think about yourself, or take into account the overall situation, whether you are centered on your own interests, or whether you take others seriously, it is self-evident.

There is a saying that there is much support for justice, but little support for injustice.

A generous, kind, generous person, will always attract good people and good deeds, on the contrary, stingy, narrow-minded, selfish people, in any case, can not go far.

Really smart people know how to think of others!