In marriage, you must keep something.

01

It is true that people often say that it is not easy to run a relationship.

I thought marriage could make up for the regrets in life, but it was later found that it caused more regrets.

Jin Yong once said: you see, these white clouds have gathered and dispersed, scattered and gathered together, life is also like this.

In this journey of life, many things are like white clouds, there are many things we have to give up, and there are many things that never leave in the process of coming and going.

In the Romance of Mom and Dad, Matthew and Lily have been together for twelve years, and they have some small habits of their own.

For example, every time he goes out on a plane, Matthew will pick up Lily at the airport, and Lily will bring Matthew some small gifts from out of town.

The first thing Matthew and Lily do when they come home from work every day is to tell each other what they had for lunch.

This has become a habit of the two for ten years.

In the eyes of his friend Robin, this habit is the most incomprehensible and childish behavior, but it is the way Matthew and Lily show love to each other.

Under everyone's disdain, Matthew and Lily wondered whether they should grow up as their relationship matured.

So the two decided not to pick each other up from the plane or bring small gifts.

But Lily, who was on the plane, suddenly felt uneasy, and Matthew, who did not pick up Lily, began to feel uneasy.

Finally, Matthew braved the snowstorm to get to the airport. Lily traveled all over the city to bring presents to Matthew.

At this time, the two realized that when two people really love each other, some childish habits and behaviors can not be abandoned. It is those behaviors that are seen as childish that make their feelings as beautiful as a day.

02

Of course, in the relationship, there are some things that can not be given up, there will also be some things that need to be given up.

It is easy to fall in love and difficult to get along with, and there are always pots and pans and trifles in marriage.

It is not easy to keep a habit for ten years. And it is not easy to give up a ten-year-old habit.

In "my wife's Romantic Journey", I like Ying Caier and Chen Xiaochun best.

As we all know, Chen Xiaochun and Ying Caier are completely different types of people, one likes to put on a smelly face, and the other likes to laugh loudly.

One comes from rural areas, carries debts and has never read books; the other has a golden spoon and is highly educated and knowledgeable.

After such two people are together, what I admire most is that Ying Cai can give up his young lady's temper for the sake of Chen Xiaochun, and Chen Xiaochun can give up his country habits in order to adopt her.

In the program, Ying Caier once imitated the state of Chen Xiaochun when eating, stepping on the seat and chirping his mouth when eating.

But in order to adapt, Chen Xiaochun changed all these habits.

Everyone knows that Chen Xiaochun is a man who wants to save face and suffer, but when facing his wife, he said:

The quarrel is not for winning or losing. At worst, I'll close my ears and don't listen. I'll just coax her at last, then let her win.

03

In fact, to put it bluntly, the thing that must be lost in marriage is the appearance of saving face, while the thing that must be kept is the appearance of loving you.

The most indispensable things in marriage life are the quarrels between husband and wife, the man's grabbing the door and the woman's heartbreak.

I remember that my grandparents love to quarrel most, but every time they quarrel, my grandpa never wants to save face.

After every quarrel, Grandpa will help Grandma make tea and then bring it over, which is a small habit between Grandpa and Grandma.

They have kept this habit for 50 years, and the act of delivering tea looks childish, as if they don't want to bear the wrong child.

But when Grandpa was serving tea, he often said, "calm down and drink some tea."

This sentence is very ordinary and very warm, every time Grandma will easily take the tea and say to Grandpa: pour it again.

This habit seems very common, but it means that I still love you, even if we quarrel, our habit of falling in love will not change.

So, in any case, we must keep something in the marriage, something that belongs to two people.