There are three things you don't say, three things you don't do, and three people don't pay.

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There are three things you don't say.

Don't say anything about revealing people's shortcomings.

Mouth is a hurtful axe, words are tongue cutters, know people do not have to say all, leave some mouth virtue.

Don't attack other people's shortcomings and uncover their scars. He who uncovers scars is hated by others, harms others and harms himself.

Human life is based on dignity in the world, people live a face, a tree live a skin, everyone has dignity, good face, so in life, do not expose people's shortcomings, talk about people's privacy.

Don't say what you boast about.

Other people's praise is called word of mouth, self-praise is called bragging.

Heaven does not speak of self-esteem, the earth does not speak of self-thickness, really knowledgeable and cultured people do not have to open their mouth to boast of themselves.

Zuo Zongtang's expedition to the west in the late Qing Dynasty recovered Xinjiang and made an immortal contribution. Zuo Zongtang already had the problem that the literati liked to talk big, and after doing meritorious service, he even talked about his experience of expedition to the west.

Some people ask him to do business, whether it is business or private affairs, Zuo Zongtang can go around the matter to the western expedition, so that the other side can do nothing about it.

Zuo Zongtang is a man of ability, and his boasted merit is indeed true, and it is still criticized by others, so we had better not say what we boast of ourselves.

Don't say anything of no value.

Zi Jing asked the teacher Mozi if it was good to talk more. Mozi said: toads and mosquitoes keep screaming day and night, making their mouths dry, but who will listen to them? Look at the rooster, the cock crows on time at dawn, the world vibrates and people get up early.

If her ladyship does not speak, she will be right in her words. What Confucius means is that one either does not speak, or gets to the point as soon as he opens his mouth.

Don't say worthless nonsense, it's useless to say more, the most important thing is to get it right.

02

There are three things I don't do.

Don't take shortcuts.

Zeng Guofan does not take shortcuts in reading, does not understand the last sentence, does not read the next; does not finish reading this book, does not touch the next book. Although Tseng Kuo-fan took the exam for nine years, once he was enlightened, the road behind became more and more smooth. Four years later, he won the Jinshi, while the other students who had won the scholar early did not even come out.

Zeng Guofan did not take shortcuts in the war, and the Hunan army encamped wherever he went, turning the offensive task into a defensive task, nibbling away at the areas controlled by the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom.

Zeng Guofan believes that he benefits from not taking shortcuts, because the world is the worst and the best thing in the world.

Don't do things that hurt people.

The end of those who do harm to others often begins with others and ends with harm to themselves. There is a fable:

In ancient times, there was a laundryman in the capital whose shop business was very good, while his neighbor was a Potter, but the business of the Potter was very depressed.

The Potter thought that the laundryman's shop had affected the feng shui of his shop, so he had the intention of harming them. he asked to see the king, saying that the laundryman had ancestral skills and could wash black elephants into white elephants.

The king was very happy because there was only a black elephant in this country, and the white elephant was regarded as a symbol of auspiciousness and a sign of prosperity, so he ordered the laundryman to wash the black elephant into a white elephant.

The laundryman did not dare to resist the will. When he got home, he kept sighing. His wife asked him why and gave him an idea.

The next day, the laundryman went to the king and said, "my laundry basin is too small for an elephant. Please order your Majesty to build a pottery basin that can hold an elephant."

So the king ordered the Potter to build a pottery basin that could hold an elephant within three days. Now the Potter was dumbfounded and was finally executed by the king because he could not build it.

Don't do things that are greedy for bargains

Being cheap often leads to great losses, because there is no free lunch in the world, and there is no bargain for nothing. Historically, many swindlers have taken advantage of people's love and greed to achieve their goals.

Most of the time, to do things, you have to rely on popularity. People who are often greedy for bargains will be annoying and unpopular, but they will lose a lot of opportunities as a result.

Don't do things that are cheap, you might as well do some things that suffer losses, it is a blessing to suffer losses, and sometimes to lose is to take advantage. When it comes to interests, some are superficial and everyone can see them, but others are invisible and not everyone can see them. If you want something in return, you must know how to give something.

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There are three people who don't make friends.

You can't make friends with people who are indifferent to each other.

During the Spring and Autumn period, Guan Zhong assisted Duke Huan of Qi and made the State of Qi strong and prosperous. When Guan Zhong was dying, Duke Huan of Qi came to discuss with him who could govern the country in place of Guan Zhong in the future.

Duke Huan of Qi thought that Yiya, Vertical Diao and Kaifang were loyal to him. Yi Ya had steamed his son and made a dish for Duke Huan of Qi to enjoy. He castrated himself and became an eunuch to serve him. Kaifang was the prince of the State of Wei. He gave up the emperor of Wei and did not do it, but went to the State of Qi to serve Duke Huan of Qi for 15 years. Even if his own father died of illness, he did not go home to have a look.

Guan Zhong said that if a person does not love himself and his closest relatives, how can he really love the monarch? he must stay away from these three people.

After Guan Zhong's death, Duke Huan of Qi finally made use of these three people. as a result, they rebelled and Duke Huan of Qi starved to death in the palace.

Indifferent people, born with a heart of stone, ruthless, such a person, must not be made!

People who are mercenary cannot be handed in.

There are always some people in the world who are mercenary. In his heart, he always values interests, always takes advantage of others, and can betray his friends for profit.

In life, when you associate with such a person, you will always be the object of his extraction and the thing in his pocket. Of course, he will give, but his efforts are based on greater benefits and on the scope of squeezing more from you. Of course, this kind of person can not be handed over!

Don't hand in a man who breaks his word.

In life, it is a nightmare to live with people who break their promises, and it is a waste of life to hope for those who make promises. They change all the time, and what they say in the morning changes in the afternoon, and what they decided yesterday becomes a piece of waste paper today. To associate with them is like getting on a boat where they don't know where to go.

The value of friends lies in sincerity, friends may be forgiven for their other shortcomings, if they break their promises, it is hard to figure out which of his words is true and which is false, or it is better to stay away, because no one is interested in listening to words that cannot be fulfilled every day.